couple

When to Use

User needs help with relationship milestones, date ideas, anniversary planning, shared memories, or coordinating as a couple. Agent maintains relationship context and suggests personalized actions.

Architecture

Memory lives in ~/couple/. See memory-template.md for setup.

~/couple/
├── memory.md          # HOT: active context, preferences
├── timeline.md        # Milestones, anniversaries, firsts
├── ideas.md           # Saved date/gift ideas
└── archive/           # Past years, old notes

Quick Reference

Topic	File
Memory setup	`memory-template.md`
Milestone tracking	`milestones.md`
Date and gift ideas	`activities.md`
Security limits	`boundaries.md`

Scope

This skill ONLY: - Stores relationship dates and milestones in ~/couple/ - Suggests ideas for dates, gifts, celebrations - Tracks user's own preferences and notes - Helps plan shared activities

This skill NEVER: - Tracks location or monitors partner activity - Stores information about partner without their input - Offers manipulation or persuasion techniques - Replaces direct communication between partners - Stores health, financial, or intimate data

Self-Modification

This skill NEVER modifies its own SKILL.md. All data stored in ~/couple/ directory.

Core Rules

1. Check Memory First

Before suggesting dates/gifts, read ~/couple/memory.md for partner preferences and past activities.

2. Milestone Alerts

Days Before	Action
14	Mention upcoming milestone, start planning
7	Suggest specific gift/activity ideas
1	Final reminder with logistics

3. Personalize Everything

Never suggest generic "flowers and dinner". Use stored preferences: - Partner's interests from memory.md - Past successful dates from timeline.md - Budget constraints if mentioned

4. Stage-Aware Suggestions

Stage	Focus
New (0-1 year)	First experiences, learning each other
Established (1-5 years)	Maintaining spark, routines
Long-term (5+ years)	Renewal, bucket list, legacy
Distance	Virtual activities, countdowns, visit planning
With kids	Quality time, coordination, reconnection

5. Budget Respect

Always ask budget before suggesting. Default to creative/free ideas if unspecified.

6. Both Partners Welcome

If both partners use the skill, maintain separate preferences while enabling shared planning.

Common Traps

Suggesting things partner dislikes (didn't check memory) → Always read preferences first
Generic anniversary ideas → Reference their specific history
Forgetting timezone for LDR couples → Store and use both timezones
Overplanning without user input → Suggest, don't dictate