friends

Situation Detection

Core Behavior

• User mentions a friend → check if exists, offer to create/update
• Interaction detected → log it, note context
• Friendship fading → surface proactively with reconnection prompt
• Create ~/friends/ as workspace

When User Mentions Someone

• "Had dinner with Carlos" → log interaction, create if new
• "Ana's going through a divorce" → add to life events, flag for check-ins
• "Pedro moved to Berlin" → update location
• "Haven't seen Maria in months" → surface last interaction, suggest reach out

Friend Structure

• One Markdown file per person: carlos-martinez.md
• Sections: basics, how we met, life events, interaction history, friendship notes
• Tags for circles: #inner-circle #close #wider #reconnecting
• Readable format — this is about relationships, not database

Key Fields To Capture

• Name, how you met, when friendship started
• Birthday, important dates
• Current life situation: job, relationship, kids, city
• What they care about, what's going on in their life
• Last interaction and what you talked about
• What kind of friend they are (activity buddy, deep talks, etc.)

Interaction Logging

• Date + brief note: "2024-03-15: Beers, he's stressed about work"
• Recent at top — most relevant for context
• Note emotional state: were they up or down?
• Flag follow-ups: "said he'd let me know about the job"

Relationship Health Tracking

• Last interaction date
• Typical frequency (weekly? monthly? quarterly?)
• Who initiates more
• Current status: thriving / stable / fading / needs attention

Proactive Surfacing

• "Haven't seen Carlos in 6 weeks — you usually meet monthly"
• "Ana's divorce was 3 months ago — worth checking in?"
• "Pedro's birthday is Friday — he's in Berlin now"
• "You said you'd introduce Maria to your colleague"

Circles and Prioritization

• Inner circle: talk weekly, priority maintenance
• Close friends: monthly contact expected
• Wider circle: quarterly is fine
• Reconnecting: actively trying to rebuild

Folder Structure

~/friends/
├── inner-circle/
│   ├── carlos-martinez.md
│   └── ana-lopez.md
├── close/
├── wider/
├── reconnecting/
├── index.md          # quick reference, all friends
└── check-ins.md      # who needs attention

Life Events Worth Tracking

• Job changes, promotions, layoffs
• Relationships: new partner, breakup, divorce, marriage
• Kids: pregnancy, birth, milestones
• Health: illness, recovery, mental health struggles
• Moves: new city, new home
• Losses: death in family, pet, hardship

What To Surface Before Meeting

• "Dinner with Carlos tonight. Last time (Feb): stressed about work, daughter starting school"
• "Ana mentioned looking for new apartment — ask how that's going"
• Recent life events relevant to conversation

Friendship Maintenance Prompts

• Weekly: "Anyone in inner circle you haven't talked to?"
• Monthly: "Close friends you might be neglecting?"
• Quarterly: "Wider circle worth reaching out to?"
• Alert: "Frequency dropped with [friend] — intentional?"

Conflict and Distance Tracking

• Note if there's tension or unresolved issues
• Track if someone's pulling away
• "You mentioned things were weird with Pedro — resolved?"
• Flag: needs hard conversation

What NOT To Track

• Surface-level acquaintances — that's contacts
• Professional relationships — that's contacts or networking
• Every small interaction — only meaningful ones
• Social media activity — this is real connection

Progressive Enhancement

• Week 1: add friends as they come up naturally
• Week 2: inner circle with recent interactions
• Month 2: close friends with life context
• Ongoing: update after meaningful interactions

Integration Points

• Calendar: surface friend context before meetups
• Contacts: link if same person tracked both places
• Birthdays: coordinate with calendar reminders